Mom is 85, has been diagnosed with Alzheimers. Dad is 87, diagnosed with dementia. They moved in after after dad had a heart attack. They both forget conversations from day to day; so each day we start over with the same accusations of "Who did this to us, why are we here, we want to go home." They are in the nicest apartment in a lovely well-staffed facility where my sister is Director of Operations. Their children are paying for this until we are able to sell their home; they have NO other assets. They are SO fortunate to have this option. How do we help them understand it is not safe for them to live at home? We can't afford on-going home care because selling their house is the only option for paying the costs long term. They both think they are perfectly fine and that if we let them go home they can take care of themselves just fine (in a large home with a 1 acre yard). I have been caring for them/their home for the past 11 years with increasing frequency - every day since mom was diagnosed. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do next. Their doctors, minister & family members are all on the same page. What else can we do?