I have a difficult situation happening.
Mom and I talked for days about what we should do after Dad passed. We are in a big house full of furniture and stuff. It costs a fair amount each month to keep this big place that is only partly in use. So, we concluded that lots of this stuff should be sold and we would get down to a small enough amount to move into a smaller 2 bedroom place.
But...now she is crying that Dad had no right to sell off her king bedroom set. (She hasn't slept in it for years, dad was the only one to use it......and..she is the one that decided to sell it). Crying over the loss a various vases....again..she decided to put them in a yard sale that happened months ago. It se ms each week she has a crying session over something. I stopped doing anything a month ago because I came to think it was stressing her out.
BUt, now I am concerned that I cannot trust anything she tells me. I am also concerned about the large amount of money this place costs each month to basically keep rooms with furniture no one uses. But, how can I believe she really intends to downsize to move out?
I cannot figure out to console her for the losses she feels were imposed on her.
How do I proceed? How do I help her come to grips with this?
Should I just accept that we will remain here paying top dollar for no good reason? I have worked out her budget every way from Sunday...and I figure that her finances will cover all her cost of living outside of a NH for her life expectancy. Even the in-home health aides each day. But, it won't stretch as far if she keeps paying this much for an unused big house.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.