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She 95 y.o. and has mid-advance dementia. Out of the blue recently all she does is talk about money and moving away. My sister & I are completely taken aback as we never talked about money or moving. How do you make them understand we are not moving her and really there is no money to be taken. Feeling drained.

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My mother has been doing the same thing; asking when she is getting to go home (she is at home), or when she is going to catch the bus back to Charleston, etc. Mom has enough money for a few years to keep her at home. I have POA for all her medical needs and the money too.
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I would ask her about the first time she had to move house. And how she managed to save money when she had a young family. In other words, distract her. She may be reliving some past experience, and getting her to talk about that may calm her.
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My mother went through a time when she worried about money. She worried that she would not have enough. She didn't really grasp figures or remember what was in her bank statements. I found it most helpful to tell her that she had plenty to last as long as she was at home, but that it would go quickly if she needs to go into a nursing home. The statement is honest and relieves her worries about her money.
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Thank you all for your responses. My sister and I have decided to give a bank statement (even though she is doesn't understand it) on a monthly just so that she can see her name on it. She does remember the bank name, but, it has been years since she has managed her finances. I believe this will help her. As for home, she is aware that she is living with us, but, still refers to her apartment back in Chicago. We are now looking for pictures to show her and maybe this will help a bit.
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