I have gotten her flavored water and also coconut water. I have posted signs to remind her to drink. We have of course gone to the Dr and even seen a urologist. He suggested meds she could not tolerate and estrogen cream. She is 86 and has dementia. She could not figure out what to do with the estrogen cream even after I explained 3 times. I have gotten her depends and chux for her bed. I think she is fixated on NOT being incontinent, she has NO ability to hold her urine now. I have talked to her about cross contamination with feces and wearing cotton panties, what else can I do???