My mom was diagnosed with cardiac dementia the middle of May this year. I am her only child so everything falls on me. My hubby is very supportive, but has his own issues with his mom, but that is another story altogether.
She keeps calling and telling me that Sue yes thats me has been there for lunch spent the night, dinner, whatever and left without saying goodbye. Is what am doing the right thing? she usually is near tears at this time. I usually go along with what she is saying and tell her I will talk to her about it. This is the advice I have read on this website.
Is this the right thing to be doing? She knows who I am when Im there but still brings up Sue as little girl. I always tell her Im taking care of her and yes school is fine but is there anything else I can do?
It took me time to learn not to correct my Dad whenever his mind was out in the weeds. Then I realized by correcting him it made him feel more confused and me upset. By agreeing was a win-win situation.
My I ask if your Mom is living on her own, or does she have caregivers that come in to help? Or are you helping her frequently and spending the night? One will need to plan for the future as dementia can be short term or takes years. My boss's wife had Alzheimer's for 15 years but she was able to be on her own for quite a few years before a caregiver was hired.
The situation is sad. What you are doing is the least frustrating for both of you and the kindest for Mom.
I know it is sad to see one's parent act that way. But we have no control over how their mind is now thinking. Maybe it is time to stop visiting for awhile as it seems to just get her upset and you even more upset because we can't understand why our parent is acting that way.