My mother (late 60s) was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in Mid July. Prior to this she had been having depression/anxiety issues. She had surgery in early August, and it went well, and she actually was given a fairly good prognosis. That is the good. The bad... Her depression/anxiety has spiraled out of control. The hospital recommended an aftercare facility. She refused, forcing my father to care for her. He is not able to do so. His health is also deteriorating and he is stressed and tired. She also refused home health care. She did not do any of the recommended post surgery care. She basically lies in her bedroom all day with a sheet over her head. My Dad was told by her oncologist - right after surgery - that he had to get her to a psychiatrist within two weeks. After about three weeks and me pushing him, he tried to make an appt, and couldn't get in until December. I talked to a friend in the health care field. She said my Dad needed to contact the oncologist and have her contact the psychiatrist's office and they would get her in right away. I told my Dad this, it was Labor Day weekend and he said he would call Tuesday. I called him Wednesday to follow up. He did not do it. He said it is Mom's decision the ball is in her court. He does not seem to understand that she is incapable of making decisions. My brother confronted him, and he said Dad doesn't want to make Mom mad so Dad is going to do whatever she wants - I feel for her to get the care she needs, he may need to risk getting her mad - if it saves her, it is worth it. I flew both of my sons home to see her - she barely got out of bed while they were there. My one son and I drove to see them last weekend (1.5 hours) and were going to stay overnight. She was in the middle of a melt down and we ended up going home - she took a depression drug and some OxyContin and was then out of it anyway. I didn't want my son to see her this way...we left. Medications are another concern. When we were there, there was probably about 30 prescription bottles on the counter. I saw no evidence of any list or chart indicating what was to be taken and when. My parents told us she was taking no pain medication. In my research Oxy is a powerful and addictive pain med, and shouldn't be used by people who have depression and anxiety because it is addictive. I am concerned about her becoming addicted, because she seems to have given up, and this would allow her to be in la la land (this from a woman who NEVER even drank alcohol). I have several other concerns about her physical and mental health. WHAT I AM ASKING, is for some recommendations on how to handle this situation. What is the best course of action? If that doesn't work, is there legal action I should consider? She received a gift when she got a decent cancer prognosis, because in my research, that isn't often the case with ovarian cancer - I feel it isn't the cancer that is going to kill her, but the depression. She is still relatively young, and I feel could have several good years ahead of her if they followed the right course of health treatment. Please help with suggestions or your experience.