Mom is in an excellent care home. I see her every day. Mom is 90 and has dementia. I managed to keep her in her apartment until last year, when she started falling a lot, and stopped doing anything, she just lay in bed all day and I took over all chores, bill paying etc. After she had several stays in hospital and a nursing home I moved her to a lovely care home 10 minutes away from me, I had been travelling 60 miles each way. She has been there 6 months and cannot settle. She stays in her room and only comes out for meals. Everyone tries on a daily basis to get her to join in the activities or at least sit in the conservatory and look at the garden and chat to people. She won't watch the television in her room or try to do crosswords etc. Despite my endless explanations she cannot retain the information so it all goes in a loop. She gets distressed and cries, calls me up to 10 times a day, packs all her clothes daily and waits for me to call a cab and take her back to her home. I understand that she wants her independence and life as it was but things changed so drastically last year that she was no longer safe. It stresses me so much, I have a very sick husband and the constant calls and questions about leaving are killing me. Will she ever settle?