My 92 year old mom has been diagnosed with Alzheimers/ dementia and was close to being "kicked" out of this ALF because she hid her belongings (purse, wallet, jewelry) then blamed the staff and became loudly and verbally abusive has been moved to their Memory Care unit.
She seemed to be adjusting well at first and then I would start to get strange messages on my voicemail from her about naked ladies trying to get into her room from the outside (impossible), then someone lifted up their skirt, squatted, and pooped in the middle of her floor, etc. I would just go along with the "excitement" of her story. Now she calls me about 10 times a day at minimum and leaves messages from being a nice tone to full on yelling at me saying I took her purse and she is tired of me and my attitude and she is going to call the police on me, etc.
My question is this? Should I play this message back to her when she is having her lucid moments so she realizes how she sounds and how it hurts me? She does act much different in front of me then she does when the staff or others are around.
She has always been verbally abusive to me and I am the only family member and child left that is willing to care of her and that has her best interest. The other sibling financially abused her in the amount of $70,000. Police say it's civil- so it's a lost cause there. That's another story.
What are some options here? She calls me constantly and I am seriously ready to have a nervous breakdown. She seems to have resorted back to a child and states, "I always got my way from my mom and dad".
She also, keeps asking where are dead relatives are and why they haven't come by to get her to take her to church or to school. I am just so confused with this chapter and its as if I'm going down a rabbit hole as well!