Mom is 89 and has been in MC for 3 weeks after 2 rough months with my wife and I. She has early stage dementia and though docs find nothing wrong physically, she feels sick all the time and complains of abdominal pain and constipation. She will have diarrhea and then complain of constipation an hour later. This was the case when she was living with us and has continued at MC. I am there twice and day, and she still calls 6+ times a day to complain about feeling sick or issues with her bowels or to complain about the caregivers. I always tell her to contact the nurses who have learned to maybe give her a little prune juice and wait, because the complaint will always change before too long. She is on an anti-depressant and anxiety meds.
She is an only child and I am her only living relative - as she always reminds me. She won't participate in any activities at MC and I think she would like nothing better than to be sick in bed with me by her bed side all the time. We were in the ER for 6 hours last week with a bleeding hemorrhoid. Sitting in the waiting room for 5 hours was the only time she didn't complain and she was sure they would admit her and find ovarian cancer (long story). She was disappointed to be cut loose with a Rx for some cream after a quick exam. She immediately demanded to come to spend the night at our house to see her cat and cried all the way back to the MC when I wouldn't say yes, It is hard not to lose my temper at times. I know she is sick, but I also feel played.
I realize she has not been there that long and I feel uncomfortable with curtailing my visits or her call privileges at this point.
I know a lot of this is common, but I just need to vent after 4 calls so far between my lunch and evening visits. Any advice is welcome. Thanks.