Well last night I talked with my mom that lives in a different state, my sister moved in with her only because she basically loss her house across the street from my mom, and the bank gave her a couple thousand to get out. My mom told me last night that she didn't want to move up here with me because I am always arguing with her. That I also ask too many questions about her finances, and she wants to know why. I told her you asked me for money for the past 18 years, and I knew your house was paid off sold my dad's business when he passed, and you had a lot of money. Over the years, you have asked me to pay for things, and then I found out you were not 70K in debt. You have an LOC payment that is just the amount of your ss check. I've paid your utilities your property insurance, homeowners, cell phone, and other bills. I own my own home and have bills too. You promised if I paid the majority of your bills at the end of last year you would move and put your house up for sale. Then you told me after everything was arranged you were NOT moving because of me and to just keep paying your bills so that my sister, and you can live in your house. Last week, my sister's kid is moving back, and you want him and his wife to live with me for six months until they get on their feet and find jobs (two 30 year olds that had work approx. two years in their life time. Just because I have a big house, I don't need to take care of them. They're not mine. Ya they might be family but not my immediate family. She told me I was heartless. I told her I can't pay for your bills either. I offer you a nice warm house to come up to with activities, hot food and a place to call your own where your grand kids are around the corner (my sister kids). You said no, My sister tells me who lives with my mom now, that I am a horrible sister. Why can't I take care of her kids. I have all that room in my house? I told her because they are broke, and I am not going in that direction too. I offered to put bars in my mom's bathroom, stitch out the toilet and get a tall one to help her and do some other things she said no it won't fit. My Mom tells me, every time you call me, I get up set and have episode for the rest of the day. When my mom calls she is crying complaining and then when my sister comes home at her house tell all these stories. There is it just no way to talk to her; she is off the charts. What don't I do just forget about her? My sister is her problem and her kid, they are the reason why she has no money and in debt. She bought cars for them paid their bills paid for trade schools and apartments/house. My mom did add last night that when she dies, she is leaving the house and everything to my sister, and I said good luck with that she can't pay the mortgage on the house, and she will lose all the equity. I guess why I'm upset is when my dad passed away I wanted a few things of my father's, I was his favorite. My mom never cared for me since the day I was born, I was always was with my dad. Last year, I asked for a few things of my dad and she flatly told me NO, but she gave my father's piano to my sister's kid, and it sits in storage. Just completely frustrated with everything and feel I should just stay out of it. All she wants from me is money it is so sad. We are talking about spending from 400 to 2000.00 a month. I send gift cards for restaurants she likes and pay a lot of her bills over the past 15 years, only to find out she had money she was giving it to my sister and her kids. Loss for what to do, I pretty much know it is now DO nothing and do for my daughter.