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How can I get help for my Mom that is being taken advantage of out of fear, by two siblings?

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My mom owned a house with my oldest brother. He was a great guy and great with mom also. He died just over 2 years ago, and it caused so much stress on her it triggered Dementia, which she was already having some sort of symptoms. I have 2 other brothers, which one never came to see her and mom would see him and his family once a year when mom would have to deliver things to them for Christmas. This has happened for years. His wife and kids never would visit mom at all. The only time was when my brother was dying. My other brother is the main concern and is the main danger to mom. This is a brother that has treated mom bad all of his life. He puts fear into her to get what he wants out of her. My oldest brother has thrown out of the house many times over the years because of the way he would treat mom. I have called police on him before for having mom pinned in her basement with his fist in her face and going to punch her. All these years mom never seen M's kids either because they were like their fathers and didn't want anything to do with her. Mom and oldest brother had the house but were struggling with bills. Myself, my fiancé of 15 years, and my son that is mom's pride and joy for all of his life would help her and oldest brother. My son was there all the time, weekends and summers and they always had a good time together. My son was the only grandchild to have anything to do with mom for all of his life. We moved in with mom, as before oldest brother died asked us to move in and look after her. Mom was thrilled. She just adored my fiancé, she thought of him as her son. We only lived there with mom for 32 days and we said we had to move out as it was just to difficult. Mom was seeing ghosts and her mind when mixed up at times was so bad she would call police on us and even called them on herself. I had made arrangements for nurses, a cleaner, meals on wheels to come, and I was there everyday up to sometimes 5 times aday. My son would go out and stay with her a couple of times a week. My brother M started coming around again. He would only show up after months each time. He would scream all the time at her, and mom would call me crying. I was still her P.O.A. and mom said she didn't want those 2 brothers around her anymore as they are to mean to her. I have heard her cry to many times because of them. All these years I would take mom to her appointments, for drives, getting her meds ready for her day and night, taking mom to visit friends and my son would help her with the dogs and cook for her. I was her main contact for all of her medical information as I knew mom better then anyone. When oldest brother died mom received his insurance. She gave everyone alittle bit including the rest of them and their kids that mom never seen in years. When M would show up after months he would start with her again, everytime. Mom is so scared and terrified of him she would never call the police on him. He hit my son in front of mom on her birthday last April and mom told the police my son hit M. My son is on disability and part of his disability is in his fingers, so he can't hit anyone. Mom would not say anything because of her fear of M. My son, me and my fiancé were still going out to mom's and helping her any way we could. I would cook meals for her in between meals on wheels and made sure all of her medical needs were met. I would refill her meds on Sarurdays. The week before Sept. 5, 2014 mom would not let me come out to the house but only twice. On the 5th of September I took her 2 dogs to be groomed. I asked her when I came back why she wouldn't tell me the truth about my brother M coming around the whole week before. Mom insteadly told me to get out and not to come back and my son also. I knew right then that my brother had got into her head. Everything was signed over to him. We would call out there and there would be no answer. Mom started calling us and saying that she missed us more than anything. M would flip out at her everytime. Mom would tell me how mean and violent his temper was and she didn't want him there anymore. My son and I took mom to bingo which I have done for years, and M, my brother D and his wife had the police more or less storm the bingo hall. When I told the police that I had reported them in the past for elder abuse they took Micheals side. Mom was so mad that they did that to her, me and my son that she wanted them out of her house and kicked them out. They would not leave and all of them started screaming at her. M's new girlfriend is involved also. They were just going to drop mom off outside on Friday night. I need someone's help A.S.A.P. Friends, relatives and neighbors know that we did everything for mom for years. PLEASE HELP ME TO FIND HELP. If there is a lawyer that helps for free, please help me. Mom needs your help. So much more you need to know, PLEASE

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Thank you to the people that care about what others have to deal with in these situations. I am not to familiar with answering messages on a computer. When responding to messages I have repeated some things. I think it is good for the truth to be repeated as maybe services and others will start to do something.
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I have done everything by reporting things, speaking to places about this situation and I can't get any help. Everyone says that I need a Criminal Family Law lawyer to help. Most people can't even afford a low priced lawyer, and who can afford their prices for a good lawyer, only rich people. People that don't make a lot should have the chance to have a good lawyer. A person should be able to have one case with a very good lawyer at no cost.
The brothers girlfriend has also been taking mom to appointments and this should not be allowed. This girl has been around my mom for only 5 or 6 months and she gets to take my mom. HOW WRONG IS THAT. She knows only of my moms medical history since she has been with my brother. Same as the other brothers wife. Had nothing to do with mom for all these years. Mom calls her an instigator and has for years. They are not a blood relatives and should not have anything to do with her or her appointments. I am the only one that knows moms complete medical history. The brothers only know of these past 6 months. Most of the relatives that knew these things about my brothers, and what they were really like have all died. It is so sad that the government can't do something, with all the people that have been caregivers for a parent and that been taken off of things because of greedy siblings that had nothing to do with the parent in years or treats them like s--- con in the parent with fear to make them sign over everything. These siblings should be put in jail. Mom says they tell her they will put her in a home, this is so wrong. This is when she mentions us. Mom is scared they will put her in a home and gives in to them because of the fear. I have read articles about how some people are being threatened into making that person have control and the elder is signing everything over to them because of this fear. What is wrong with this, all of these services and police are being lied to and believing this siblings that are conning them in. They will investigate people like us that do care more than anything and yet the criminals like them are being believed. This needs to be addressed more to the public. There are so many elders being taken advantage of and the family members that have loved and helped that parent don't have a leg to stand on. When speaking with mom on Friday evening she wanted to come here. The brothers girlfriend was saying in the background to mom, " we will drop you off" and mom said they said they would drop me off if I drive her home. I told mom it is close to your bedtime and that to just stay home and that I would call her tomorrow and that my son and I would come to see her the next day when they are not there. Nice, they were going to just drop mom off outside of our big apartment building and leave her. I wish I would have recorded this girl saying that in the background. Mom told me earlier on Friday they were in her face yelling at her. My 2 siblings, the sister in law was in moms face to and mom said the girlfriend sat there with her arms crossed and smiling when they were yelling at her. Mom said she threw a glass at the one sibling and told them to get out of her house. Mom was upset but clear minded when I was talking to her. Mom said they kept saying over and over my name but especially my sons name. They are so jealous of my son and that they have no right to be. Yes my mom cares about my son more than theirs because my son has been in mom life for all of his life. The siblings kids had nothing to do with mom at all.
We tried to call mom on Sat and didn't get an answer. I spoke to her later on sat and she said she was there all day. My sibling and his wife were there last night when I called out there at 8pm. Mom told me that one will leave and the other one comes in. This has never happened in my lifetime. We believe this is so they know her every move and that we don't get around mom. They truly know that mom would change things back and they will do everything in their power to stop her from doing that. There is so much more to this and I guess I should being mentioning so much. They would try and put me in jail because of my comments. Well they are all true.
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Thank you so much with the feed back from others. About first response, he had my mom sign everything over to him. I was also second in command on my brothers will when he died because he didn't want the other 2 siblings involved and didn't want them around mom especially the one in charge now. He has the police, mental health and everyone else believing that he lives there and believing he is the loving son. Mom has told me that he lives with his girlfriend and just left his furniture there locked in the 2 other bedrooms up stairs. When we lived there for the one month we had to put locks on those doors because yes mom would go into our things. We were told that it is her house and that the locks come off. Micheal has locks on both of the doors and mom has told me that she wants them off and he told her no because it is his house. For the last 5 months he took her house keys away from her. I told mom that she needs to report him for that also because when she takes her 2 little dogs outside she could get locked out. Mom said that he told her no again. Him, his NEW girlfriend, the other brother, his wife and there kids are all sticking together. They are lying as they don't care about mom at all, it is what they can get out of her. If mom had nothing they would have NOTHING to do with her. I wish the police would put a hidden camera in the house and they would see how they treat her. I don't have the money to pay for a lawyer because they are so expensive. But I know one thing the Government needs to change the laws when it comes to the ones that are telling the truth and that really care, not for the ones that are out to just get everything. We love my mom dearly and have always. They don't care about her, if they did care they would have been around to help her all this time but they didn't. It was only when mom got my brothers life insurance and the house signed over to her. They are saying that we ripped mom off for 80,000 dollars. WRONG
Mom never received that much money and yet they didn't mind when she was handing them out money a lot. They are con artist, greedy S.O.Bs and just in it for the house, the money and the things of ours that is still in the house. There are things of my mother in laws, things my real sister in laws have bought us and things my big brother gave to my son. THEY WANT IT ALL.
I am not to used to using a computer, so please don't mind if I screw up something. My son is teaching me how to use the computer.
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I was the one that set up all of mom's services so she would be able to stay in her home with help from me, my son and my fiancé. Mom was a very happy lady than
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Thank you so much with the feed back from others. About first response, he had my mom sign everything over to him. I was also second in command on my brothers will when he died because he didn't want the other 2 siblings involved and didn't want them around mom especially the one in charge now. He has the police, mental health and everyone else believing that he lives there and believing he is the loving son. Mom has told me that he lives with his girlfriend and just left his furniture there locked in the 2 other bedrooms up stairs. When we lived there for the one month we had to put locks on those doors because yes mom would go into our things. We were told that it is her house and that the locks come off. Micheal has locks on both of the doors and mom has told me that she wants them off and he told her no because it is his house. For the last 5 months he took her house keys away from her. I told mom that she needs to report him for that also because when she takes her 2 little dogs outside she could get locked out. Mom said that he told her no again. Him, his NEW girlfriend, the other brother, his wife and there kids are all sticking together. They are lying as they don't care about mom at all, it is what they can get out of her. If mom had nothing they would have NOTHING to do with her. I wish the police would put a hidden camera in the house and they would see how they treat her. I don't have the money to pay for a lawyer because they are so expensive. But I know one thing the Government needs to change the laws when it comes to the ones that are telling the truth and that really care, not for the ones that are out to just get everything. We love my mom dearly and have always. They don't care about her, if they did care they would have been around to help her all this time but they didn't. It was only when mom got my brothers life insurance and the house signed over to her. They are saying that we ripped mom off for 80,000 dollars. WRONG
Mom never received that much money and yet they didn't mind when she was handing them out money a lot. They are con artist, greedy S.O.Bs and just in it for the house, the money and the things of ours that is still in the house. There are things of my mother in laws, things my real sister in laws have bought us and things my big brother gave to my son. THEY WANT IT ALL.
I am not to used to using a computer, so please don't mind if I screw up something. My son is teaching me how to use the computer.
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Who goes to mom's medical appointments with her these days? Can you talk to her doctor about her living conditions? It sounds as though it's time for her to sell the house to fund her care.
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If you think there is something inappropriate going on you need to call Adult Protective Services. Let them know that Mom has dementia, or whatever it is, and that she is afraid of brother.

Brother's death most likely did not trigger dementia. In my family's case some thought a surgery, and the anesthesia caused the dementia. But, truth be told, while Mom was hospitalized, family started paying closer attention to what was going on, which is often the case when things happen, like deaths, surgeries, etc. Mom had been experiencing difficulties for a very long time.

APS will investigate and if mom's dementia is far enough advanced they should be able to help her. I was investigated by APS, false allegations by my twisted sisters, and all was ok. The investigator will interview your mom separately, and if bro is smart, he will allow this to happen. Mom will be given a mi i mental status test to determine the level of dementia. If she is far enough along in her disease then APS may be able to help. But is she is not, and she says everything is hunky dory with bro they will not be able to do anything.

Have neighbors pay attention and ask them to call police if they witness anything out of the ordinary.
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No I was taken off as her P.O.A. She signed him over everything. I know her medical history most of all but I am told that mom loves having him there. She will say that because she is to scared to say anything else. The veins stick out of his neck when he yells so much at her and also she told me on the phone today that they have been calling her crazy. Is there any lawyers in this world that have real compassion about helping in this terrible situation. My son has only seen his nan 2 in 6 months, and before it was daily for all these years. He is 24 years old and completely broken hearted.
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You have POA, get bro evicted and a restraining order against him.
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