Frustrated and don't want to visit because of this.
Mom (89) has been placed in a "group home" with diagnosis of dementia. What do I say to her when she constantly begs to go home to her own house? She is on home Hospice care and very well cared for. She is wheel chair bound...no longer can walk on her own. She would need a 24/7 caregiver to live in her home but the cost is between $8K-$10K/month which she can not afford. I visit every other day but I leave each day crying, depressed, feeling like I have let her down. I just can't figure what to do...knowing she is in the best place possible right now. I still feel like I have totally betrayed her wishes. How to get over the guilt and what to say to her each visit. She just does not understand and it is so sad. I am under pressure by my Son and Brother to try to do what she wants but they live out of town only to visit maybe once a year!!! Maybe I should limit my visits and let her settle in better. Maybe there is no answer for me but I am a faithful reader of this website and wanted to see if anyone has advice for me. How do I live with the guilt?????