Mom becomes very angry about not being with her children that are now grown. It's an every day mid-morning issue. Advice?

Read up on dementia at Alzheimers.org. The best thing you can do is agree with your mother on whatever subject she's carrying on about. Then distract her onto another, different subject, that has nothing to do with her children and the fact that they're grown now. If she's exhibiting a lot of anxiety with this anger, contact her doctor who can perhaps write a prescription to calm her down.

Here is a link to suggestions on how to redirect a person who's focused on one topic:

https://www.aplaceformom.com/blog/how-to-redirect-a-loved-one-with-dementia/

I also suggest you watch several Teepa Snow videos on YouTube about challenging behaviors with dementia. She has one on redirecting hallucinations that's very good as well: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3s0ktYUIn0Y

Wishing you the best of luck!

This is sad. What you might do is come up with a simple answer and distract her into some other thought/conversation. You are not going to be able to resolve this. I'm assuming she has dementia of some sort.

Maybe we can see them later, mom. Or something about them being away or busy or something to diffuse the conversation. Be ready with something so you can get her moved onto something else.

If she is as regular as you say, can you plan an activity that distracts her at that time each day? Anything will do, even getting into the car and going for a drive, a craft, a FaceTime visit, a card game, etc. She may eventually lose the obsessive thought, but you won't know how long it will take. Blessings!

With Alzheimer's disease, you slowly lose your memories - starting with the most recent and working backwards. She is at the stage where she remembers her children at younger ages and they were her responsibility. Thank God that she cares about all of you still. Maybe talk about what tasks she feels must be accomplished and let her know that they are already done. She may be able to relax then and move on with the rest of her day with less frustration.

Perhaps sort of a "compromise" could be that BECAUSE they've grown up, they have various adult responsibilities, but we'll see if we can all get together sometime soon. This way you are agreeing with her without giving any false information (in case she just happens to remember at least part of what you've said). It probably wouldn't be a good idea to reinforce her belief that they are all still small children. (I wish we had a suitable term to describe an "adult 'child' "--that is, the now-mature offspring of a parent!)

our mom constantly wants to go home to her mother stressing that she will get in trouble if she doesn't go home. (our mom is 90- her mom is gone) We now tell her happy lies - which calms her until the next time. We tell her that her mom works at the hospital and is making great money so she doesn't have to go home yet and that my brother is helping her with dinner. She gets so happy when she hears this lol. Maybe if you say that the kids all went to the park,camp or are at a birthday party she will be happy. Tell her they called and are having so much fun and you will be picking them up later. Think of what would make her happy for that minute and keep repeating it. Unfortunately there is nothing else because that is their truth so you just have to go with it. It is awful and I feel for you because you feel bad but the brain is not healthy. We found that the best thing is creating happy thoughts for them in that moment.

Ask them to each send/email a video or DVD that you can play for her each time it starts. Tell them the things she says and asks about them so they can answer her worries and questions. Perhaps they could send a different one each week. They can film themselves and their families. Seeing a grandchild saying hello Nana/Grandmother/Mama, then seeing them playing games or having fun might give her some of the peace she needs.

Maybe have MORE photos of her adult children available, though I know that is not the answer for your LO with Alzheimer's. As far as who to talk to, speak to her neurologist. You would benefit from the book, "The 36 Hour Day."

Mom is going through the same thing some call it sundowning which usually starts at around sundown but moms starts around 11am. It's not easy but I try to go along with her story so she feels listened to; she is back in time so she's sure we're all kids doesn't believe we're in our 60's!; I divert attention by singing a favourite rhyme or song; give some good news or fun gossip, give her a doll to hold which gives her comfort especially in the afternoon. Things that work one day don't work the next; lots of white lies to let her know they'll be there later. I hope this is somewhat helpful. I watch a ton of dementia educational videos by Dr. Natali Edmonds she's extremely helpful. Blessings. There's also Teepa Snow with lots of experience in the field. Here's Dr. Edmonds' channel: https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=dr.+natali+edmonds+channel