I've had about enough of my situation. It's been pretty stagnant lately, as my sisters and I care for my grandma when we come home from college/ work, and my mom is supposed to wash/ change her diaper and feed her before going to work at noon. I've now realized that most of the days my little sister is caring for her morning routine and my aunt (who is in cancer remission) is feeding her in the morning. Sometimes my mom does it.
I got really angry a few days ago when I got home at 7 PM and found that my grandmother had been in her dirty diaper since 11 PM the last night. My mom was supposed to change her but said she had to rush to work although she woke up at 10 am and works at 2 pm.
I was livid and confronted her. If she can do her hair and makeup, why couldn't she at least change the diaper??? She expects her elderly cance patient sister to do it? This is not the first time I've come home to a soiled grandma. It happens at least once every two months or more. I'm a nursing student and therefore a mandated reporter and I reminded her of this and all hell broke loose. She's making this all about her and calling me ungrateful and brought up a lot of other family issues. All I want is for my grandma to be cared for correctly. She even gets paid to care for her but she is not doing it, we are. I am fine with helping, but I am not fine with what happened.
This is definitely making my whole family miserable. So what can I do? My mom will not let up with the guilt trips and making me feel like I am wrong and she is always right. I've always bent to her will but this time I am really torn. I feel morally obligated to do something. If she can't care for my grandma then she needs to be in a home.