Mom and Dad live at home with assistance. Both are very mentally sharp. Dad has, type 2 diabetes, parkinson's , is 89 and was just diagnosed with cancer. Mom is recovered after a year, from an open sore. They have help with getting to dr appointments. Brother who is there thinks they are being "stupid" and he would like to pay for someone to come in and assess their situation. If I lived closer, I would be the kind of person to help manage. My brother doesn't care to do that and would rather have a professional come in and give him peace of mind. But they have refused, they don't want to spend the money. They want our inheritance to not be so "dwindled". My inclination is to respect their wishes and to accept that they have a right to live and die how they chose. Am I being short sited? Or is my brother being overly anxious? Clearly, it's creating family contention. My parents feel that he means well, but that he doesn't listen. He feels that they or me and my brother don't listen.
I would love some feedback. Also, how will I know when I can read folks response?