She goes into his room and sits on his bed with her head in her hands. Sometimes she gets defiant--won't take her medication, doesn't want to bathe. Her doctor prescribed an antidepressant as well as Xanax as needed, but it's going to take a bit for that to kick in. Is there anything immediate we can do? My dad is her primary care giver, but we do have some help that comes in about 15 hours a week. Next week, we will collect her brother's ashes from the funeral home and finish taking care of affairs since my dad can't do it. All of this is taking a toll on my dad who is 87. We just don't know what to do.