This has been going on since we lost Dad - five years plus. I take care of her finances and homecare. I do not live we her. I have a housekeeper that comes over for additional hours to take care of things and clean her house. My brother and sister live in the same city - brother is little help - sister is none. What happens is that family members - brother, sister and sister in law tell Momma things about me like I do not want to have anything to do with the family and my husband and I do not want to come and visit her. I don't speak with my sister and I am enraged with my brother. I have an attitude. Momma believes all of these things eventhough we have talked to her many, many times about it and have explained that what they are trying to do is get Momma and I against one another so they can get money out of her. A way to deceive. When Momma gets agitated and does not like what I am saying to her at that time - she lashes out and repeats these comments right back at me. It is bad enough that my brother, sister and sister in law talk about me like a dog but very hurtful when it is my Momma. My husband and I do feel like she has some form of dementia. I have talked about that before on this forum but she has not been to the doctor - good luck on that. I know - let it roll - ignore it etc. etc. Well, when you have been lashed out and beat down for over five years it wears you down. My question is if we do get her to a doctor is there some type of medication or something they can give her to control her getting agitated and having outbursts? Down right mean. Yes - alot of times when you talk to her the next time - she does not remember. Don't know if she is doing this to brother and sister, but she is doing it to me.
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