At this point more than a year later my mothers OK. She's doing pretty good. I know that the excellent medical care, nutrition, and the socialization is what has improved her health. She still has continued with medical issues and a dementia that is increasing. She is using a walker part of the time. She is continually asking me when am I going to get her out of here, when is she going home. She blames me all the time and not my three brothers. She called me selfish and that I just don’t just don’t want her anymore. I usually visit at least 5 to 6 days a week. Prior to entering the nursing home she was ill for six months, hospitalized three different times and I took care of her 24 hours a day at home but it was exhausting both mentally and physically. I had to get on an antidepressant and also saw counseling (gave up on her because she just keep telling me to not visit so much, I’m retired so have the time and want to). I know that the NH is the best place for her at this point. Even the past five years I limited my social life because she did not want to be home alone. She moved in with me when my Dad had a stroke and had to be in a NH as well. I know intellectually that the nursing home is the best place for her at this point but emotionally I have difficulty every single time she asked me when is she going home , why don’t I want her home I’m being selfish, she is independent and they do nothing for her. Obviously not true. I just don’t know how to handle it. It seems that she just repeats this montage constantly and never takes in what we (my brothers and I) say to her. I know it’s part of the dementia but it still hurts. My brothers say they don’t want me to bring her home it would be too hard for me. The guilt is really getting to me at this point. There are days when I think I should just bring her home even though I know it would be difficult on me and on the dogs (she's very abusive to them ) and verbally abusive to me. I do bring her home sometimes for day visits and see this abusive behavior and unrealistic views of what she can do physically. What can I do?? How do I help her understand and stop feeling so guilty??? Sorry for the ramblings. Thanks in advance for the help.