My mom is here at my home in AZ for 6 month "visit" which I believe should be permanent due to her need of care. She's 91 and has been in MN living on her own until about a year ago when my nephew moved in with her to help out but due to working isn't there often. Some how some way she got a hold of an opiate pain medicine and started using it to help with her sleep (I'm pretty sure how she got it but I won't go there for now.) Insanely her friggin' doctor kept refilling it based on my mom's "promise" she wouldn't take it during the day. I suspected over the phone this summer she was indeed taking it during the day. Now she's in my home under my care and on her "last" bottle. I'm certain her doctor in MN won't refill it Long distance (I'll turn her into the law if she does) and there is no way my doctor here for her would. My mom when clean DOES want to get off of it, she realizes she has no choice. But she's hidden the bottle (I think I know where it is) and I can always tell when she breaks down and takes it. So I have two questions: first I believe she won't voluntarily give me the bottle, should I take it from her as I do have the opportunity when she's sleeping. There are only a few pills left if my estimates are correct. Second, and this may sound cold, but I can't STAND her when she's high. She's demanding in a rude and "be my slave" manner. If I don't bend to her exacting will she purposely pees on her bedroom floor. I'm so angry right now. I should be compassionate, I know, and I usually am but I just can't take this high ninny in my midsts. She hates going to the doctor, we've discussed her withdrawal symptoms and while clean she sincerely wants to battle it but I'm certain she's going to lie to me this next time. She actually seems to think I don't know when she's high but it's as clear as water. I'm at a loss of what to do just because of the simple fact she WILL run out soon and will have no choice but to get off them. I'm prepared for the compassion she'll need as she goes through withdrawal but dealing with this current druggie is driving me mad. Do I confront her, what do I do if (and she will, I know my mom) she lies about it? Say to her, you're not peeing on my floor anymore or stop acting like a victim when I KNOW you're more capable than that? Geeze I'm stuck. . . She's a wonderful lady that I adore when she's clean. I don't ever get stern with her and I don't really know how to approach this.