She was evaluated, and no longer has capacity. She's a frequent flyer to the hospital. I've been cooking all of the meals for two years, giving her her medication and taking care of the house which is now in my name. I've been her caregiver for seven years. I'm 55 with diabetes and sarcoidosis. My wife has lupus, chronic pancreatitis, Reynauds, Sjogrens and fibromyalgia. I'm suffering from severe caregiver burnout, but Mom won't consider going to a facility. We can't even get her into a shower/bath because she won't take one. She won't go to a doctor, so we rely on her frequent trips to the hospital, where she's combative with them. I can't deal with this anymore as it is causing enormous stress, is taking a toll on my physical and emotional wellbeing, and my relationship with my wife and son. I'm not a nurse. I don't have the training, nor do I want to spend whatever time I have left taking care of her. I don't go anywhere or do anything. The house has antiquities, jewelry, firearms and I don't want a stranger here. I've lived up to my responsibilities and obligations, but it's time to have a semblance of a life again before this destroys it. I found a really nice facility which transitions from independent living to skilled care, and is only 45 minutes away. She has Medicare and Tricare for life, and has a long term care insurance policy. I love my Mom, but I'm at the end of my rope. I have POA and health care proxy, but can't afford to pay for the process of obtaining guardianship. What do I do?