My MIL has an apartment in a retirement/assisted living facility. She is 92 years old, widowed a year ago. She has a studio apartment and they "show" her apartment to potential residents looking to move into the community. My husband visited her earlier this week and told me yesterday that management showed her apartment to a man who later called her and took her and another female resident out to lunch. My husband asked NO other questions about the man or the situation and has shown NO concern for what happened. My MIL is always falling for scams. We suspect she may have lost thousands of dollars on scams over the past years. She truly believes she will win the Publisher's Clearing House contest. My 67 year old husband is being evaluated for dementia. In June his neuro tested him and said he was "borderline" for dementia. MRI was unremarkable. He has to see the neuro every 6 months. We go again in December. We have been married 5 1/2 years. I cannot/will not take care of both him and his mother (who is a narcissist). My husband is already high maintenance. I am 59 years old. My husband's only sibling, a brother, died suddenly 5 years ago. He is solely responsible for his mother but, if he gets a diagnosis of dementia in December, I will not allow him to continue to be his Mom's POA and guardian. And I refuse to do it.
My husband does not at all understand that he should be finding out more about this man and what is going on. Would any of you be concerned with this situation with my MIL? Am I just worried about something that I should not be worried about? It just seems strange to me. My husband has 2 grown kids who live in the area but I will not talk with them about their Dad's medical issues and their grandmother until I have a firm diagnosis from the neuro as we have asked her to rule out other possible causes for his symptoms such as HF Autism and ADD. Obviously, if my MIL is falling for someone/something that is nefarious, that will affect me, too, in the end.