I have been taking care of my mother for years. Lately I decided to start volunteering as a way to stay sane and feel better about myself. I got snookered by middle aged mean girls yesterday when I was invited to help out at a volunteer table. They called and asked me to come, and oh by the way would I stop for sandwiches. I had to wait until my helper came to leave and they called twice more to add extra snadwiches for others and to ask me where I was. They called again while I was trying to drive and then while I was hiking from the parking lot carrying food and drinks. they were SO FRIENDLY :L-)
WHen I got there they said OH GOOD can you watch the booth and all left to eat. One made a point of making sure I knew that only real lmembers could open the cashbox for change. They said they would pay me later.
When they came back after a long time, some of them had gone home. They didn't pay me but one asked me pointedly if I had seen her sunscreen which was supposedly very special (no it was drugstore variety). I was nice and they when I finally wanted to leave because it was obvious I was not part of the gang, they opened up the cashbox to pay me and hesitated like maybe i MIGHT WANT TO MAKE IT A DONATION.
I cried driving, I cried in my yard before comming inside. So much for respite and joining in. I want to ask if anyone else has been taken advantage of like that. I had to pay someone to stay with my mom to go. I had to pay for their drinks and sandwiches and got made to look like a fool and needy and not belonging. I got excluded for not having a husband and having it "EASY" taking care of a mom with alzheimers and other ailements. I feel so bad I don't even want to show my face and now the money I was going to use to pay the girl next week is gone to the donation of sandwiches for mean girls. Sometime things dont' change by wy dont people care? Are there any groups that are there for us that we can meet with - i just wanted to be one of the girls and now I feel like nothing.