I am a polio survivor and very strong-willed, now responsible for an 87 year old mother, who has always been negative, depressed and fatalistic. I have overcome a lot in my life and do not have patience for her, although I do feel empathetic toward her because she is lonely and isolated. She has always been an introvert, depressed and felt sorry for herself. She was an only child. I have one brother who lives an hour away. My mother and I do not see eye to eye on anything. She mocks me for continuing to do things for myself and being strong willed. The more I try to help her stay independent the more she tells me that I am crazy for being strong-willed. She has always let everyone do everything for her (my grandmother, my dad) and now she expects me to do it. I am finding that I resent her weakness more and more although I understand that she is old and frail. She takes one pill a day for blood pressure issues. She does not have any life-threatening illness right now. She does not think she is mentally impaired but I see the decline in cognitive abilities.We have reached the point of it not being healthy for her or for me, for me to be the main caretaker. She is not financially able to hire private pay home health care or outside help. My brother is not too interested in helping and he lives too far to help on a daily basis. She is an extremely weak minded individual who never found the strength to go to the hospital with me (her mother did it for her) when I had surgeries for 18 years, beginning at age 8 months old; however, now I am expected to take care of her. She is and always has been a total "victim" - everyone hurts her and now she is lashing out at me because she feels "safe" in being sarcastic - she knows I am strong enough to take it, but honestly, I am beginning to resent her. I want to take a step back and let someone else do it but she has no money. I see her 3-4 times per week but it is getting to where every time I depart she is on the verge of tears, or is in tears saying "you just don't like me because I am weak." It is partially true as I have no patience with a person who puts forth no effort. Where do I go for assistance to make sure she is safe and taken care of?