My 80 year old mother has dementia and was living in her own home with a 24/7 aide living with her. None of her children live near her and she refused to move near one of us. She slept daily until noon and never went anywhere except doctor appointments. Over the holidays she came to visit one of her children and through circumstance (bad UTI and cancer scare) she wound up in the hospital, followed by rehab, and now is in a memory care unit that is part of a larger community (independent living, assisted living, rehab, memory care). My mom is probably one of highest functioning residents in the memory care unit. Unfortunately my mom is very unhappy and has been extremely emotional with all of her children- often times saying very mean and hurtful things. Sadly a wandering resident entered her room and crawled into bed with her while she was napping. My mom keeps saying she thought the woman was going to attack her. Now my mom is scared more than ever before and we do not know what to do. Have her step down to assisted living or go back to the comfort of her own home away from all her kids? It was so hard to get her to where she is today, but it is so hard to see her go through all of this. Suggestions?