Just moved 85 year old MIL from IL to AFH for memory care.
When she was at IL she would walk to a grocery store 2 blocks way. Her dementia worsened and IL asked us to move her. We moved her in one afternoon into a care home so she will be safe and with 24/7 care.
She doesn’t comprehend the move, we made up some stories about why she can’t go back to her studio that she seems to buy into. However now she says she wants to go shopping, needs her credit card ( which we took away, on the advice of the care home ).
Of course she shouldn’t and couldn’t go shopping. The care home is in COVID lockdown under state order. But she doesn’t understand it.
It’s sad that she has no idea that because of her wandering behavior, she is being locked in MC for the rest of her life. Even without COVID restrictions, no one will take her shopping. We are remote caregivers. The rest of the family in the area is estranged and will not even visit, let alone taking her shopping.
She’s asking to get her credit card back so she can go shopping. She’s going to walk out to find a grocery store although she has no idea where she is. She doesn’t need to buy anything. She just wants to go out.
This obsession about shopping worries us. I feel this is a time bomb eventually will explode. She’s on relatively good behavior at her new care home but at some point this is going to explode.
Any advice? Similar experience?