I'm financial and healthcare POA for my 87 year old mom. I recently executed the POA through her Neurologist (she is in stages of cognitive impairment). My niece, her husband and 2 children have lived with her for the last 5 years. They told my mom that, while pregnant with 1st child, she couldn't sleep because the upstairs neighbors were making too much noise. They told us they would be gone after the birth (plus 90 days of bonding of course). Mom agreed to that. At 90 days, they had no plan. I only pressed them one other time. Still no plan. In hindsight, I should've setup a written rental agreement. But Mom started showing signs of memory loss. I guess them being there was advantageous for both of them. But living a lifestyle they couldn't afford on their own became intoxicating. My niece grew up in that house. The word "entitlement" now comes into play. My sister is and always has been a frequent visitor because those two are her daughter and son-in-law. Fast forward to present. I've endured condescending talk and disrespect. Mom now has difficulty with simple tasks such as dialing the phone. She was always hiding her debit card from them, but couldn't remember where she hid it. They decided to hold on to it... and they knew the pin. I pay all of mom's bills online so I check every month all the activity. They are hiring caregivers without my knowledge. The signatures on those checks don't look like moms' (forgery). My sister is also using the card to put gas in her car and go to spas (not often but still...). They're loving this sweet setup. But their arrogance lead them to send me a letter with what they said were "non-negotiable" requests. Mind you, they're living rent free in exchange for care for mom. They want mom to pay for a caregiver 60 hours a week. They also want to be paid California wages, including overtime, holidays, etc.(?) They also wanted me to make moms' finances transparent to them. I responded with a different plan as we can't do that financially. And moms' finances are none of their business. But there was a way to give her all the care she deserves. I would have to liquidate the property and move her to a nice assisted living community. This is where the sh#$t hit the fan. The ones who stand to lose the most are always the loudest in the room. I started the process of the sale. They went silent. I had an investor ready to go to escrow. I've been keeping everyone informed as I move forward. But got silence. I informed them I was coming up to meet with the broker and termite inspector. We were refused entrance. I was not allowed to talk to my mom in private. A heated exhange ensued. I felt threatened. I apologized to the inspector and we both left. They got to mom. She kept saying she didn't want to move. I knew that. We been in conversation about this since receiving that letter. But they got to her. My thinking is to put this in the hands of the legal system and let them enforce whatever decisions they make. I filed a report with Adult Protection Services about the recent incident. I'm trying to cancel the escrow. I just can't explain my thoughts and actions to someone who doesn't perceive the world as I do. I won't go up there anymore. I will begin to tighten the finances and make things more difficult to access. I may look into this forgery avenue. But I'm here looking for advice.