My 77 narcissistic bipolar mother has been A self medicating RX addict all her adult life. Was very easy to get in the 80’s and 90’s. Now addicted to oxycodone for cellulitis pain which she was given in rehab for 3 mos.
She was discharged from rehab since Medicare coverage ended with RX for oxy. She was deemed unsafe to live alone. (Some dementia)
I moved her across country to a beautiful clean AL with kind and compassionate staff!! It’s true!
She typically self isolated in her apt even (before Covid lockdown) she does not get dressed. She is hoarding leftover meals. She has had a hoarding disorder for approximately 30 yrs. She throws the meds across the room when aides come in to administer them. She was prescribed Depakote for a previous “episode” in June.
Director called me today to say she needs to be placed somewhere else where they can “manage” her medication rather than “remind” her of her medications.
She takes Oxycodone (pain), Trazodone (sleep) at 10 pm, Seroquel (Bipolar) and Depakote.(mood stabilizer)
Does this mean NH?
She will have to give up her SS and pension and go to Medicaid NH bed since she has no assets.
So sad to me she had an opportunity to thrive and socialize and make friends in the AL and enjoy living. But her untreated depression (she says she is not depressed) and personality results in her bad behaviors.
She has abused my siblings and I as children and our entire lives. I am totally burned out. My sister is estranged from her for past 10 yrs.
My 2 younger brothers have both passed much too young.
I am going try to turn her over to a SW and pay my attention to my own family who deserves it. This is easier said than done. But there is no reasoning with her.
I guess the AL apt will go to someone next in line who deserves it.