My mom is 95. She lives alone in her own home. She has fallen about 7-9 times in the past year. Her falls have not sent her to ER. She has not broken anything. These falls have provoked her to go for testing with her primary doctor. She has had a complete physical and has passed all tests with glowing results. She has elected to not drive anymore so she is somewhat homebound unless a friend calls her to go to lunch. She will not seek help with any senior agency for rides; she will not use a cane to help her walk as she still feels weak in her legs if she stands/walks too long (she's 95-100 lbs); she finds it hard to bathe; and she is very much afraid of asking for help fearing people will now know she is living alone. She says she has cut back cooking bc of afraid of falling near the stove. So she snacks a lot. That's not good. She has missed a couple of Dr appointments bc she won't call or use a cab or any other senior service. So I was told that if I contact her primary Dr and tell her my concerns, the Dr would intervene and get my mom the necessary medical help (rides to appts; physical therapy; etc) and/or have medical personnel come and take her vitals; conduct physical therapy at her home and just ensure she is eating and hygiene is good. Is this true? To look at mom, to talk to mom, people think she had everything under control, but she doesn't. She is a very proud woman, very independent and insists on keeping it that way. We (my brother & I) do not live near my mother. I am out of state and my brother is out of the country. We visit her separately, about 6 times a year for 10-12 days each visit. But that's not enough, we know that. Lately, in talking to my mom, there are times when she is really alert in her mind and than only lately, she seems delayed and at a loss for the correct wording. So what can I do? She will not leave her home. She will not consider outside help because she doesn't want people to know she lives alone. She is very afraid and feels very vulnerable at this point. Any suggestions? I/we are so very fortunate that our Mom has done so well for herself for all these years. We just want to do what's best and without crushing her spirit with harsh words or conversation. In my search for answers, I am hoping that contacting her primary doctor will help. Will it? Thank you.