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We are in desperate need of one for my mother.
My mother was diagnosed with MS over 20 years ago and has chosen to ignore all medical care to slow the progression of the disease. She is in denial and has excuses for all of her conditions (I'm weak from lack of nutrition, I can't walk because my spine isn't straight, I've always had bladder problems, etc...)
Instead she has turned to alternative medicine to cure her ailments. She has hooked up with a clinic that has convinced her that they can heal her and she has spent over $200,000 in the last year paying them for medicine they say is from Europe and not FDA approved. The money she is spending cannot be claimed on her taxes and is not unlimited. She will run out quickly at the rate they are bleeding her dry.
Anytime someone tries to question what she is doing she becomes very hostile. Her husband is at his wits end, but won't stand up to her. He continually enables her. We've tried every approach we know to stop this. We all fell that she is not thinking clearly and this clinic is simply selling her hope - veryy expensive hope!
We are all tired of watching her slowly die and need help. We would like to have an intervention. Something like they do for drug addicts, where you have an interventionist present and a plan for treatment in place if we can get her to agree to go. Do such thing as a Medical Intervention exist? I don't know where to begin or who to ask for something like this.

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If she's a competent adult, she can spend her money as she wishes. No Intervention is going to work if the person she lives with doesn't go along with it.

I would file a complaint with the state against the clinic.
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He's the one who has to live with her once she's done spending all of the money too. She's has spent over $200,000 in the last year! That's insane! It almost sounds like someone in a blind mania like a person with bipolar will go into and spend money like it grows on trees. Has she ever spent money this wildly before?

How much longer can this go on before they no longer have any money for these meds, but even for daily living. She's really going to be angry then.

Doesn't he feel any anger over this?

Does he understand that it's either deal with her anger now to save money for the future or deal with her anger later when the money runs out and there are bills to pay?

If he has a grasp on all of that then he's one fearful, competent, clearheaded man who has put up a thick wall that nothing but going broke and homeless will break.

I guess you have to respect his choice to remain as is which must create additional anxiety inside of him since he sees things so clearly. I don't know how healthy this is, but this stress could contribute to a heart attack or a stroke. Does he drink and or smoke?

This sounds like a time bomb waiting to go off and I feel for your own frustration in dealing with this.
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Her husband is very competent and clear headed. He just says that he is the one that has to live with her and he doesn't want to fight this battle. I feel like he has set up a wall that we can't get through.
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If her husband will not quit enabling her behavior and a doctor has not declared her incompetent, I am not sure how much can really be forced upon someone who is considered an adult.

If he would stop handing out the money for this clinic, then the cash flow would cease and she would have to go see her real doctor and get his/her evaluation of her body and brain. However he's an enabler and probably intimidated by her and not very open to changing that relationship pattern.

Are either of them competent to be dealing with all of this on their own?
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Intervention is in your hands. Consult a certified elder law attorney and take action...probably guardianship. Cut off the money. Don't wring your hands and get to work.
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Her husband could get her declared incompetent.
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It might be better to try to direct her to items such as interferon beta, that has been around for decades and used in helping MS. More information can be found on WebMD.com and by talking to her primary doctor.
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