My father is 92, has mid stage vascular dementia and has lived with my husband and I for over seven years. Recently he has been having frequent mini strokes and with each one we see a significant decline. He was recently declined by Medicaid due to owning two homes. Both homes are owned jointly with estranged wife, she lives in one and refuses to sell either one. Both homes have a combined valued at $110,000. Upon his death she will receive the homes. We have talked to an attorney about a divorce and and he said dad he is not competent to sign papers. My husband was diagnosed with cancer eight years ago and underwent surgery and chemo, we just found out it has metastasized and he will begin radiation in two weeks. The stress is killing me and I am wondering how I will be able to take care of both of them on my own. I am an only child and our children live out of state. Without Medicaid there is no way we can afford long term care for dad. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.