I am the caregiver for my 81 year old husband, I am 61. He qualified for Medicaid a few months ago and the help we are getting in the home has been a godsend to us. He has suffered two strokes and has vascular dementia. We own our home. I keep reading here "when you sell the house, they take their money". I've been under the assumption that when I die 'they' will take the money that was paid for my husbands care out of my estate, not take the money when I sell the house. I'm assuming that 'house' represents the estate of parents. Is my assumption correct or am I wrong?