Mom has dementia and lives with us and dad does too. Mom and dad have lived with us for about 2 yrs they do help pay the bills. They have Doubled since they moved in. I'm not rich or they would pay nothing. The question is if dad does before mom and we have to put mom in a care unit are they going to come after us for the money that was to help with bills. My dad is fine nothing wrong with him he is in his 80s But mom is not late stages dementia I have to help her with every thing and so does dad I am going to marry my other half in iowa and it still is not legal in Nebraska for gay marriages.