My mother has onset of Alzheimers and she is not yet bad enough to go into a nursing home or assisted living, and she lives in Michigan. We want her to stay in her home and be as independent as possible for as long as she can, but she can not stay by herself or drive, per her doctor. We have found a person through her church who is retired herself and she stated that she would love to stay with mom (known mom for 13 yrs) day and/or night. We will be offering to pay her and she stated that she is grateful for the extra income. How do we justified that for when we have to look at medicaid for mom. Also, I plan on quitting my job in end of July and moving back to Michigan and take care of her for as long as I can, but for me to do that I will need to sell my home in Missouri. My brother stated if I do that, that after mom goes into nursing home or passes away that he has no problem that I can stay in mom's house. Am I able to do that? Should my brother and I get my mother's house deeded to us? How will that affect my mother. If I sell my current home and move up there and if I take care of her for 5 years, I will be in my upper 60's and if I can't keep the house I will be without a home....Any information you can provide is greatly appreciated.