My two sisters work presently, I have been my mothers unpaid caregiver for 8 years. That was okay as I had my daughters child support but that has not been the case now for quite a while. Mom's care has become overwhelming for me and I need assistance or I will lose my mind and I am serious!
I began paying my 22 yo daughter (college student) to watch Mom while I run errands to the doctor or to the store but there are times I really just need to get out of this house. I have become anxiety ridden and sometimes it is panic and anxiety. I have been caring for Mom for 8 years but I have been in this house caring for 3 others who were ill for 17 years, all the while I am sick and on disability for panic and anxiety and seizures. I actually never took this on of my own free will, it was expected because I was at home due to my own condition.
One sister will be losing her job in about 2 1/2 months, and may be home for a while, or not depending on how her job search goes. She cannot live on her very small social security check. I am wondering how Medi Cal views the family caregivers being paid should Mom require Medi Cal in the future. Do they count it against you?
Are there unseen pitfalls to doing this? Has anyone done this and regretted it or not done it and later wished they had?