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My dad is in age care his power of attorney daugher does his washing brings in what ever he wants. He speaks very highly of her even though she is depleting him of his assets. Dad seems to think that the home he purchased for his power of attorney, daughter is a good investment and he got good financial advise, even though he is relying on his dividends from his shares to pay for his agecare fees. Red flag is that power of attorney told dad if you run out of money you can always live in the home that was purchased. I rang the nursing home explained the situation and was told that it would not be possible for dad to leave the nursing home facility. Sibling doesn't have savings is on some government support payment and if dad runs out of money who's going to pay the bills.

"My dad is in age care his power of attorney daugher does his washing brings in what ever he wants."

Ok, so your sister has found a safe place for your dad and visits and does his laundry and brings him things he needs.

"He speaks very highly of her even though she is depleting him of his assets. Dad seems to think that the home he purchased for his power of attorney, daughter is a good investment and he got good financial advise, even though he is relying on his dividends from his shares to pay for his agecare fees."

How exactly is she depleting him of assets? He invested in a house for her, which is certainly his right if he hasn't been declared mentally incompetent. And his investments are paying some fees he needs paid.

"Red flag is that power of attorney told dad if you run out of money you can always live in the home that was purchased."

OK? Is she lying? The only red flag I see is for your sister who may be putting herself in a bad position of caregiving.

"I rang the nursing home explained the situation and was told that it would not be possible for dad to leave the nursing home facility."

Where exactly did you want him to go? He's probably not in a nursing home for fun, he needs care.

"Sibling doesn't have savings is on some government support payment and if dad runs out of money who's going to pay the bills."

Medicaid if he's in the US and he hasn't gifted away too much money in the prior five years to needing their help.

I'm not understanding who you think is being manipulated, or why you're worried about dad's bills. Do you have contact with your dad and sister? You don't mention actually talking to your father about his care and financial needs.
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I'm sorry you are going through this. He apparently chose poorly in regards to a POA, but that's his choice. When he runs out of money the POA may lose interest in him and move on. That will leave him penniless and he can go on Medicaid to pay for his care home. Do not put your own money towards his care as it will just help the leech, not him.
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Medicaid will pay if his assets are spent down. Is the house in his name or POAs?
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Contact Adult Protective Services and ask that they investigate for elder financial abuse.
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You can report your concerns to whatever agency operates where you live to investigate possible elder abuse. As it is, dad chose another sibling as POA and unless abuse of that can be proven, the choices made by the POA are valid
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