We started getting in-home care December 21st. Since then, 4 aids have quit because of Mom's aggressive behavior. I was skeptical at first but have seen/heard enough of the episodes to know that Mom really is ramping up the screaming and physical attacks. It catches them off guard because she's very sweet otherwise and only 100 lbs - but it's all sinew.
Anyway, we have to find a way to manage these, or better understand the journey with vascular dementia. We have tried ativan, haldole, klonopin, and seroquel. I don't think any of them helped. You can wipe Mom out with seroquel but that is NOT what I want - though I may not get what I want.
Mom is mostly aware and enjoys engaging with staff, dancing and going to Church. Wiping her out with drugs will remove all the enjoyment she still has. I have read and gone to courses on general alzheimer's aggression/behaviors. We are trying to implement all those tips. Any other ideas?
My husband and I are very anxious about losing our new found help. And I don't see a very bright future for my Mom if we can't make this work. She won't last long in a facility and she won't be happy.