Meeting with a Medicaid planning specialist today. Is it reasonable to pay someone $1,500.00 to do medicaid planning? Finally decided to place my mother and mother-in-law into assisted memory care facility. I want to do the right thing and want them to have quality care. I also need to get back into the full-time workforce, after being out three months. I appreciate all the support and tough answers I received on this site. I am finally realizing that I can't care for my mom and my mother-in-law in my home any longer and have a descent life. Caregiving is sooooooo difficult. I have been able to work the last five years, while caring for my mother-in-law, (having hired HomeInstead Senior Care, and having her attend the Christian Health Care Adult Daycare program) but there were too many other demands in the evenings and weekends. I took my mom in, (who has more physical, than cognitive issues) and quit my job to care for both, but I am now BURNED OUT. I need lots of prayers and support as I place them in a long term memory care facility. I also need a new job, since I cannot return to my teaching position in Jersey City. I need some positive helpful advice. Thanks.