I had to cut him off due to abuse. I am long distance from my Dad and brothers and no one talks to no one. He has a "girlfriend" who comes over every day but she has schizophrenia and has never called me if my dad was in the hospital, so she cannot be relied on to do anything at all. My younger brother, who is supposed to be helping my dad, has always hated me (he says he doesn't remember growing up with me and has no reason to accept me as his sister). My other brother lives many states away and has cut off from the entire family. I do not expect to get inheritance nor do I care. I do care about my alcoholic, dementia father, though, but I constantly feel as though no one would even notify me if he passes because of all their hate. Is there any way to get someone outside the family (police, or ?) to notify me? I wouldn't want months to go by and then find out. He qualifies for a military funeral but not enough people would attend.