It has been two years. I have cared for my mother in my home for the past two years. She has cancer, more specifically, Multiple Myeloma. She has become bitter and abusive and extremely negative. I have tried as hard as possible to "detach" as all the experts say but my own mental health and physical health are at risk when I don't receive her cooperation and instead receive verbal and emotional abuse. I would like a pat answer when she lashes out at me that will keep me from showing my hurt yet will make her stop.