My daughter's grand-mother in-law is 87 and lives alone. Her two sons live 4 hours away. My daughter lives 15 hours away. She was diagnosed with Alzheimers and has refused to go into assisted living. In the past year she has rapidly declined. She is not eating or drinking very well. Doesn't take her heart medications and is having hallucinations. The family still continues to allow her to live on her own, and has a friend bring in groceries every two weeks. She is very stubborn and will not admit she has any problems at all. We live over an hour away and try to visit at least every two weeks. We have told her son they have to do something, but he just keeps putting us off with promises of "looking into" hiring a lawyer so they can gain guardianship of her. This has been going on for over a year. They have a POA for her finances, but claim they can not make her go into a nursing home. Two doctors have declared her incompetent and have said she is being neglected. We are so afraid something is going to happen to her there alone. She is paranoid and thinks people are breaking into her home and says sometimes she sees them, but they leave before she can stop them. What can we do to help in this situation? I don't want to upset the family because my daughter is part of the family. But I don't want to wait until something horrible happens. This situation is just cruel.