My 84 year old mother has the beginning of dementia. She really needs to move to assist living or get in home care, but flat out refuses. I live a 100 miles from her and my brothers live across the country. She is financially able to have the best care, but insist she is able to take care of herself. She is forgetful, forgets to take her medicine, wears the same clothes, and has rotten food in her refrigerator. There is no convincing her. She told my brother she would not move unless it was in a pine box. I am at the end of my rope.