I recently collapsed from exhaustion taking care of my 89 year old mother and was admitted to the Mental Behavioral Ward of my local hospital. My previous doctor had me on 5 different drugs for depression and anxiety which had me crying incessantly and feeling hopeless. I checked myself into the facility and thanks to God a new doc straightened out my medication but told me I had caregiver stress syndrome. I have been taking care of mom for 5 years with some help from my son who lives in the house owned by my mother. He and his fiance had to completely take over for 5 days while I was being treated. My son was angry with me for admitting myself and his girlfriend accused me of being crazy and the reason why she didn't pass her nursing state board test. They oppose everything I would like to do for my mother and according to my doctor it would involve placing her in a assisted living facility. My mother adamantly refuses to leave her home and has made it clear to all that she intends to die in her own home meanwhile not thinking about the health and welfare of me. I hear about other families who are able to keep their mother or father at home only with all the adult children pitching in and sharing the responsibilities. This is not so in my case. My brother and his hateful wife have weaseled out of their responsibility to my mother and always go to visit her sister every holiday season including Christmas, New Years Eve, Easter, and Thanksgiving. They haven't been here to share any holidays with my mother in years. I can tell you my depression has gotten a bit better after being released from the hospital but it is slowly returning as I am right back in the same situation I just left. I have many resources that were given to me when I left the hospital but my son and mother don't want strangers coming into the home even for a few hours in the morning which could give me some time to find a part time job and start saving a little for my own retirement. I certainly can tell my son and his wife to be wont be around to help me when I am old. I am very bitter and sad at the same time and am afraid I am going to end up back in the psych ward if all of this continues to go on as before. Me being the bad guy wanting mom to go to an adult day care or ALF. She has Dementia and I am told it is only going to get worse. Thankyou for your kind advice.