Hello, I guess I've reached the burnout stage as I care for my mom for the past several years... I remained single till almost middle age due to my close bond with my mom. She's been living with me and hubby for 6 years now, although I have 3 older siblings that hardly call or email EVER. Mom has a little bit of dementia, incontinence, and sleep disorders. E.g. she wakes me up at 3 am when hungry.
I brought my mom from Europe as my siblings have neglected her for the past decades, since dad died and most of the property was distributed.
So mom depends on me and my overall support, yet does not wish to contribute at all in any financial burden, including her health insurance of $800 per month. She longs for my time and attention, yet misses my siblings, though they have long abandoned her. She keeps her pension for "when she'll return back home".
Sometimes mom wakes up in tears and loud complaints about being homesick and willing to return to Europe. Hubby and I work very hard to make ends meet, yet I work from home and keep her clean, well fed, and protected. She does not speak english, though I have been begging her to take lessons ages ago.
My husband is worried about our life and financial future. He says that mom's 800 dollar insurance will not help much if some serious condition occurred in the future. I understand his concerns, and have to chose this week if mom will stay or go back to a hometown with a sibling that mostly cares for her financial support, yet is not the responsible type to care for her the way I do.
On one hand, I love mom deeply and want her to be safe with me, yet she misses her other kids and grand kids, and does not seem to appreciate hubby and my efforts.
By the way, we are trying to conceive and it is now or never, as my bio clock is ticking really hard.
Please help me. I am lost between the 2 loves of my life, hubby and mom.