I work full time from home, been doing so since 2011. In August 2022 my MIL came to live with us after she fell ill, and wore out her welcome with another son. She is very stubborn, hard headed and I want to say lazy but I think that is related to her decline in her health. She doesn't speak english, nor does she know how to read or write. Our decision to bring her home was due to my SIL telling MIL to administer her own meds, which she couldn't since she had several blood pressure, AFIB, and blood thinner meds. We bought pill boxes with a sun and moon and instructed her to take the meds in the sun in the morning and the moon at night. Nope she couldn't do that picking the wrong meds so we administer them
Since she has been with us she has slowly improved, but lately since she is feeling better, she has changed. She refuses to do exercises that her therapist ask her to do, she will not leave her bed, she calls my husband every few minutes to little, pointless things. She asks for things then refuses them, and doesn't listen or respect what we ask. Example, I work in my office across from her room. She hears me on Teams calls and will begin yelling for me, the latest was 10:30 AM and she wanted me to go to Taco Bell and get her tacos. I told her no, then texted my husband telling him of her request and that she pulled me out of a meeting. He talked to her about this activity again. This past Saturday we took her and her friend out for lunch, my husband and I are talking and she begins talking over me talking to him. She does this a lot so I am feeling there is competition. I feel she needs to be the center of attention. Then Saturday evening the four of us went to celebrate my husband's birthday with his siblings. She refused to sit in the car because the leather seat was wet. Husband dried it and she still refused. I finally lost it because husband and her friend were telling her it was dry. I told her sternly to get in the car now. My first time to speak to her that way and she sat quickly. So after I felt regret, I feel mean, like a third wheel, it's my husband and her and I am left outside. We have no privacy, since she has moved in our house is a mess with her and her friend coming over. I have talked to my husband about this telling him I am tired of working 40 hours plus, waiting on and helping her, and then cleaning and doing laundry for all of us. He likes to have people over every weekend and today I told him I wanted a break for the next few weekends, no visitors, no friend over. I am just so frustrated so looking for options I can look at to manage better and learn from. This is my first parent to care for and wow, talk about an entirely new perspective on those that have been doing this, it is very hard and I have new appreciation now.