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90 years old and 2 recent falls.

Alarms you can get imbiber her mattress it should set if off
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I’ve seen a few families handle this exact concern, and the good news is there are some really reliable devices out there that can give you peace of mind at night. A couple of the most trusted options are the Smart Caregiver Wireless Bed Alarm System and the Lunderg Early-Alert Bed Alarm. Both use a discreet pad under the mattress connected to a wireless pager, so you get an alert in your room as soon as your mom starts to get up. The Lunderg even gives you a few extra seconds of early warning before she’s fully out of bed, which can really help prevent falls.

If you’d prefer not to use a pad, there are also motion-sensor alarms you can place by the bed, or even small wearable sensors (like SafeWander) that clip onto clothing and send alerts straight to your phone. Some caregivers also add motion-activated night lights and keep walkways clear to reduce the risk of trips in the dark.

From what I’ve heard, combining one of these alert systems with simple fall-prevention steps has given many caregivers more restful nights, knowing they’ll be woken up right away if their loved one tries to get out of bed
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Thank you for the helpful responses regarding cameras and baby monitors. I do have these already set up and am alerted by my phone. My mother is pretty much herself aside from short term memory loss here and there. The medication she is on for dementia has helped tremendously. We take it a day at time.
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SouthernFlower: Perhaps she requires placement in a managed care facility.
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Your mother belongs in memory care for her safety.
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SouthernFlower Aug 31, 2025
No, she does not . Her sleep disturbance is mild and intermittent and she is in a safe loving environment.
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I want to add on to what Fawnby had to say.
I’ve used blink cameras - they work very well. But they will alert you every time mom rolls over or moves even under the covers. Is that really what you want?
At some point you will need to choose your own health and well being over mom’s. You cannot save her from the disease that has taken over her body or herself.
I know this is a callous position but something to consider. I wish I would have opted for more of the barrier method with maybe the pad on the floor than the cameras that are constantly alerting you.
You can turn the camera notifications off but it is all or none. These are terribly hard decisions that caregivers have to make.
Good luck and God bless you.
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You can get an inexpensive camera that is wifi enabled and Alexa (or whatever system that you have) connected. I have Wyze cams in my home that notify me via my Alexa devices, and my iPhone, when they see movement.
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Hi there. I started out with a baby monitor and went to a camera in the bedroom and living room. I actually lived in the back from my mom and both of these worked great. You can see and hear if you are out with the camera. Good Luck. I also got a hospital bed with the long railings.
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If you choose any device that alerts your phone, any way you could move your cell phone into the bed with you? I keep mine close to my head. Works for me.
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We use Blink cameras, and the notification settings on both of our phones (Android, iphone) are easily set to be loud and bothersome enough to be heard. You can choose the most noxious tone and then turn your phone's volume up. This works for us, even a deep sleeper. Maybe you would want to check the motion detection alert settings and maxing your phone alert volume?
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I am going through the same thing. Hospice has given her a hospital bed but she still can get up
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There are many devices that will do what you want, BUT. Waking up over and over will be miserable for you and could affect your health.

There comes a time when home health care is no longer sustainable, and this may be it for you. Plus an alarm doesn’t keep her from falling anyway.

Please take care of yourself!
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Great ideas, but ask yourself how long you can continue getting up 2-3 times per night or it could more. Mom can live another decade.
Personally, I am light sleeper and any kind of noise would wake me up. Probably even someone fluffing ( meant f@rt, not sure if we can use that term here)
We need 6-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. I would vote for sleeping pills.
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Baby Monitor would work.
There are bed alarms. Some are placed on the bed so that if a person gets up the alarm will sound. There are some that are placed on the floor so when pressure is applied the alarm will go off.
If she is actually able to get up safely and needs to go to the bathroom a commode placed in her room might work but she would have to be able to safely get up and transfer to it. (and many people do not want a commode in their room.) And with mom being 90 she might have a difficult time getting used to it.
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I used a baby monitor. I am a light sleeper so would hear her.
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Google this: Bedside Floor Mat Alarm with Caregiver Pager. It has a pager that alerts caregivers. I am not sure if it would be loud enough for you. Are you a heavy sleeper. You may neet to set up multiple detectors to alert you.
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SouthernFlower Aug 20, 2025
This is what I need !! Grateful for the information . I had scanned on Amazon but didn’t see one with caregiver alerts.
I can’t thank you enough for your help.
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Maybe consider putting her mattress on the floor, or buying a concave mattress so that she can't get out in the first place?

Or consider sleep aids either prescription or OTC like Tylenol PM?

My 100-yr old Aunt with advanced dementia slept in a bed in her own home surrounded by make-shift barriers to keep her in place. It worked for years, then one night she got past them, fell and broke her hip. I wished I had known about the mattress "hack" back then.
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Grandma1954 Aug 20, 2025
Any of the PM medications contain "Benadryl" and make the user "brain foggy", groggy and if mom is unsteady already this would not be good.
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How about an inexpensive security camera that is motion activated and will alert you on your phone when motion is detected?
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SouthernFlower Aug 20, 2025
Thank you for the suggestion. We have cameras set up with motion detection . Alert on phone isnt loud enough to alert me if I am sleeping.
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