Father gone for 20+ years, a one and done heart attack. Disabled spouse for 15 years who has helped in past with caregiving for my mother but recent changes had him out of the loop. Last week MiL going downhill fast. Can’t be there for her to fill the gap her son leaves because of his health and distance he has to travel to be there for her and step-dad with health problems. Estranged from her daughter (my SIL). About to transition my mother into AL (91, dementia, major short-term memory loss, mobility VERY rough). Looking for other onlies who sometimes wish they were not, lol.