Hello everyone, I'm fairly new to caregiving and new to this site. My mother in law (85) who lives with me and my husband has been diagnosed with dementia, ocd and other conditions. She is somewhat bilingual, however she has very little comprehension in either language.
Our unique problem is that she demands to shower everyday. Her showers last for a full 2 hours (she turns water on and off). She has for the last 3 months suddenly become aware of her hair follicles and says its dirt. Its gotten to the point of that she is literally scrubbing the hair off of her head. She is almost bald on the sides of her head. We have taken her to the doctor. No sign of bacteria, skin conditions other than she is going bald on the areas she rubs the hair off. We have tried to get her to shower less, lessen the time in the shower etc. She becomes like in a trance and cannot stop scrubbing. She will get very agitated and a few time violent when we try to gently stop her from rubbing her hair off ( she also is rubbing skin off on her legs and face in the shower).
Can anybody recommend a soft wash mitts that can't be taken off in the shower that can be used on a daily basis? I was thinking if she can't use her fingers to rub her hair and skin off she can take her long showers, We just don't want her harming herself. I'm thinking if her fingers can't feel the hair follicles it will stop the behavior.
She also has become aware that her skin feels different on her face and is rubbing that to the point of rubbing skin off. This happens throughout the day. I bought her stress balls and fidget toys to keep her hands busy.
I appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read and I am hoping someone can help me with advice, ideas really anything as I am someone stressed out on a daily basis.
Much respect to all who have been and are current caregivers.