He pretty much cut us off years ago. He did send her a couple of large checks several years ago, and when SHE calls HIM on his birthday every year, he does talk to her about an hour. He absolutely refused to speak to me for years, but this last year I called him and we actually talked. It may not happen again, but do any of you have an idea how I can get him to help with mom? He's in another state, far away, and his wife doesn't like her, so he can't take her, nor can she travel. Now what?