My 89 year old mom moved in with me, my husband, and 16 year old son, and seems to be getting worse. She can barely walk anymore, and she has a past tendency of falling. She does have a walker and cane, but won't use them. I try and keep a close eye on her, but sometimes I am very busy. Her hands shake quite a bit also. She always telling me everyday that something hurts, which I'm sure it's true at her age. But lately it seems to be getting worse. I am scared, because if she were to fall, I am not strong enough to pick her up, and also, if she gets where she can't use the bathroom, or wash herself anymore, I don't feel right doing it for her. But it would also be too hard for me to try and move her around to do it. I just had hip surgery and have a mild case of COPD. I am home with her most of the time, while my husband works and son is at school. No other siblings help me. Is there a home care agency that could come and bath her and clean her up, when she gets unable to do it herself? I did buy her a potty chair, but there is carpet in her room and she has a tendency to spill things a lot. So I'm sure that would get spilled if she tried to use it or empty it. (which I would do). I did buy a plastic mat to put under it. I also have another question, but will post it in another comment. Thank you all.