My father is 94 and has acute short term memory loss which is becoming more mid and long term loss. He needs full-time care. He has been living for the past two months with my brother and wife who live in Southern CA. The rest of his family, six other sons, DIL, grandchildren all live in the Seattle area. There is conflict between the son he is living with who wants him to stay in CA and others that want him close by for visiting and family events. No one in WA can take him into their home fulltime so if he comes back to WA he would need to live in a memory care facility. Some feel that memory care would give him the activities and stimulation that he needs and is not regularly receiving in CA, others think living with a family member, even remote from the rest of the family is best. This is a tough situation that's about to become a deep family divide.